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  • Aug. 26th, 2009 at 10:11 PM
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Not very long ago, a friend of mine asked me to consider pursuing a Master of Law in Tax at NYU.

I was interested. A few of my friends had gone down that path - it seems to be a good springboard out of Singapore and I always wanted to go NY. The big obstacle was the fees.  I could just about afford the fees, but not the costs of living in NY. My friend pointed out that I had financed my undergraduate education via bank loans, and I can do the same with my postgraduate education. It is different, I retorted - the bank loan for my undergraduate education was interest-free until six months after graduation, by which time I was settled into a nice-paying job, the bank loan for this bears interest from the date of draw-down, and even a person as bad at numbers as I am know that you don't fool around with compound interest. I would have exhausted my financial reserves and gone into debt just to pursue a post-graduate degree. Pssh, my friend said, the starting pay of a new lawyer in NY is so high that you'll pay off the debt in no time. And he was right - even now, after six years of working experience, my pay is less than the starting pay of a NY lawyer in a big firm (even after their pay cuts and pay freezes). And in those days, it seems that law firms in NY were hiring anyone who breathes.

Still, I hesitated. I had just got out of debt at that time, debt that I did not incur, but which I still had to pay. I had a brother in university, who I was partially responsible for financially. I have semi-retired parents. Given the circumstances, to take a year off and then come out of that year in debt seems foolhardy. It was a difficult decision - the heart says, go. the head says, you can't. And there is no right or wrong decision on this - either way, a price must be, and is indeed, paid.

Looking back, as the consequences of the decision are now increasingly apparent, I am wistful, but I know that even if I can, I would not have changed anything.

We live with the consequences of our decisions, and all we can do is to smile, grimly or otherwise, and move on with our lives.

The article that inspired the ramblings above.
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Quote to Remember

  • Mar. 30th, 2009 at 8:51 PM
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"If you are in pursuit of the almighty dollar, you may make a bundle of money, but your psychological happiness may not be guaranteed. But if you pursue your greatest passion, chances are you will not only become very good at whatever that passion is, but by being good, you will also love what you are doing, and probably make a sufficient amount of money to live very comfortably."

- Robert Parker, Vintage Lawyer

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Going forward ...

  • Mar. 13th, 2009 at 6:51 PM
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My plan for 2010 was essentially, get a job overseas (hopefully Hong Kong or China), and leave Singapore, and I was so looking forward to it. Then of course the credit crunch took place, and threw a big fat spanner into the works. So now, surveying the wreckage of my long-cherished plans, I decided it is time to plot my next move if things don't change quickly, and I'll like some ideas from you guys and gals out there. I have been brain-storming for a couple of months and here are some ideas - what do you think? I like my current job, mind you - if I stay on in Singapore and in law I'll stick to this firm unless they kick me out. Poll #1364793 The Way Forward
Open to: Friends, detailed results viewable to: All, participants: 5

What do you think I should do in 2010?

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Travel in Latin America for four months and hope that the economy recovers by mid-2010
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Travel in China for four months and hope that the economy recovers by mid-2010
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Do a postgraduate degree (full-time) in Chinese law and hope that the economy recovers by 2011
1 (20.0%)

Do a postgraduate degree (full-time) in US law and hope that the economy recovers by 2011
1 (20.0%)

Do a postgraduate degree in history / international relations / museum studies (full-time) as a "gap year" break
0 (0.0%)

Do a degree in interior design or sewing as a "gap year" break
1 (20.0%)

buy private property (with scary mortgage), continue working and forget about the first 6 options
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Stay at current job, work at CPA and STEP qualifications and be frugal since times are so bad
1 (20.0%)

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Another Post About Books

  • Feb. 25th, 2009 at 7:38 PM
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Why is it that it is when I am most busy, stressed, demoralised, frustrated (in other words, having bad days) that I find the most interesting articles?

I love this article by Allison Arieff in the New York Times, which is about the magical world of books. There are so many gems in her article that I feel myself almost swooning with ecstasy as I read it.

Another homage to books ... )

 Update: Talk about a coincidence - Books Actually has a new event right now:

 
Sometimes we find a part of ourselves in a book. Other times, we leave a part of ourselves in it. Recommend another is about sharing that part of you with others.

Pick up a card from BooksActually, slip it between the pages of a book and leave a secret note for someone.

Or if you’re feeling up for it, make your very own recommendation. Start a conversation with the person in the next aisle, in note-passing fashion.

It doesn’t matter if you don’t know them or they don’t know you. Because if we all shared a little bit of us, then we wouldn’t be strangers anymore, would we?


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Exams Are Over!

  • Dec. 18th, 2008 at 12:59 PM
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Exams are over. The last paper on Advanced Financial Accounting was tough - what on earth are the consolidation entries for a downstream sale of debt securities whose fair value is higher than the amortised value, and sold at an unrealised profit? Evil evil... it is nowhere as evil as the question she set for our presentation question though - accounting for debt securities held as AFS which is denominated at a foreign currency, and there have been changes in the exchange rate as well as massive declines in fair value of the debt securities. Took my team almost a week to solve the question, and it was so painful... though I have to say that right now I have almost committed the definitions of FVTPL, AFS, HTM and Loans & Receivables to memory!! But hey, she gave my team an A for the presentation, so that helps mitigate the Fs I have gotten on my two quizzes, which is something I guess.

Assuming I pass my two papers - Accounting Theory (a waste of trees, and definitely environmentally unfriendly) and Advanced Financial Accounting, I will have successfully completed my Master in Professional Accounting. And arrogant though it may sound, I am darn proud of myself - a girl who used to fail Maths with depressing regularity from primary school all the way to junior college actually getting an accounting degree - it doesn't come easy you know?

The next question is - what do I do now? In a way, things are falling into place - I had promised my bosses that I will stay on in my current job till the end of 2009 and with this lousy economic climate it does seem to be a smart move anyway. It is no pain to stay on - I like my bosses, I like my job, I like my colleagues and my pay is good, so really, no complaints here. Hopefully, however, the economic climate will improve by 2010 - much as I love this place, I really think that it is essential for my career development to get some overseas experience - Singapore is too darn small!

For 2009 however, I am thinking of studying French and starting on the CPA Australia programme. I was at the CPA Australia information session a few days ago - and it doesn't look too difficult - nothing compared with the SMU MPA programme at any rate, especially since I can do just one module per semester. The tricky bit is finding a mentor, especially since so much of my work is confidential and privileged so I need to figure that one out - maybe there is someone in my firm who is a CPA and willing to act as my mentor? I will need to discuss this with my bosses. I need to figure out the CPA SIngapore requirements as well - I have six years of experience working in tax and trusts, even though I have not worked under a CPA except for about a year, so I am not sure how that works out. If I need to take a series of exams for the CPA Singapore qualification though, I'll probably opt out - I want an international qualification that can bring me places (CPA Australia should help me with finding a job in Australia at the very least, and that will be a step towards my goal of getting a PR in another country), and if I want a Singapore qualification, I much rather take the STEP qualification -  I can do the thesis route rather than doing the entire course since I have sufficient work experience and it is probably much less painful and more relevant to my work in any case.

Right now, however, I am enjoying myself! I have quite a lot of vouchers from my credit cards, so I managed to get a 3D2N stay at Swissotel The Stamford at a really great price, and since I was staying in town (Swissotel is right smack in the shopping district), I was catching up on all my shopping - I finished my Xmas and CNY shopping already!  I also found information on the wine fridge that I have been meaning to get since last year - so that will be next on my shopping list. I am considering getting one of those OSIM massage chairs for my parents - my father has been longing for one for years (since I was a teenager) but we never could afford one until now. I need to do my sums and see if I can get one for him, especially now that he is retired and spends most of the day watching cable TV - yes we finally got cable as well and my parents are now glued to the TV everyday. My brother claims that he only manages to watch TV after midnight nowdays, and I still haven't watched anything on cable yet - and at the rate the TV is being hogged, I wouldn't get a chance!

The real treat is my stay at Changi Village Hotel with its absolutely fantastic spa and beautiful swimming pool, as well as the great food just outside the hotel and the beachside boardwalk :-) I have a long-overdue appointment with my hairdresser as well later this month (she is such a dearie, I've been going to her for hair services since I was in university, and she knows that I only go around three times a year, this year though, I been so busy that I haven't seen her since Chinese New Year!)

It'll be back to work next week, and to be honest, I am quite looking forward to a year in which I can focus on my work and not be constantly distracted by demands from the MPA programme - hopefully the next year, tough as it may be economically, will be a good year for me professionally as I integrate my accounting knowledge into my practice, and as I lay the groundwork for my eagerly-awaited leap out of Singapore. Yay!!!!
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The Singapore Dream

  • Sep. 25th, 2008 at 12:26 PM
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"Get a good education, work hard, save money, get married, own homes, make babies, retire and enjoy the fruits of your labour - this was once the Singapore Dream."

For quite a while now, I have wondered, is this dream attainable? Or will it be attainable only if I made the decision to go elsewhere. Somewhere where working hard and saving money will make it possible for me to own a home without a heavy mortgage, where getting married and making babies is not such a daunting prospect, where retirement at a point in my life where I have sufficient time left to enjoy the fruits of my labour is not just a dream. Or am I just whining?

The Singaporean Dream )

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I will not forget ...

  • Mar. 18th, 2007 at 4:24 PM
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I finished my Financial Accounting exam yesterday - there is a really high chance that I am going to flunk the module. Nonetheless, after the hysteric fit I (almost) threw yesterday after the paper, I managed to sit down this morning and go through all the personal paperwork that has piled up over the past two weeks when all of it was shoved aside in favour of my sorry attempt to balance my work commitments and my exam revision. Right now, I am back in the office looking through all the unfulfilled work commitments that accumulated over my one and half days of leave. Sheez..After answering some e-mails, and preparing my To-Do List for the week, I can't help but surf over to my favourite website - www.fanfiction.net - for some light relief. To my surprise, I found a very good story based on Calvin & Hobbes - http://www.fanfiction.net/s/2048837/1/ - it is a story about growing up, about how as you get older, you forget your dreams, your fantasies, the whole wonder of being alive and in the world. Go and read it.

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I read an article on the New York Times a while ago, about daughters giving up high-powered careers to stay at home to look after their aging parents. I am not reproducing the article for copyright reasons.
 
The article made me think - not least because I am putting the pursuit of my dreams on hold while sorting out family problems. Ostensibly, the women interviewed in the article are happy and willing to make such a choice - but being a woman who is putting the pursuit of my dreams on hold while sorting out family problems myself, I think that their feelings are probably far more complex than that.
 
On on hand, it is true that these women are happy - happy to be able to get out from the daily grind of the workplace, where (especially in office jobs) a person's job can seem meaningless (pushing paper, dealing with irate clients who make you think that the world will end in an explosion if you do not respond yesterday etc), happy to have time to themselves instead of being chained to the desk.
 
However, the loss of economic independence must be dreadful, particularly to a single woman. Think about this - a single woman with a good career if she is wise, will probably never "want" for anything she cannot really afford - there are probably no mortgages or car loans to pay, and no children to educate, feed and entertain. She can go overseas on holidays without taking into consideration children's exams and holidays, purchase that expensive LVMH handbag without too much effort and stay out late clubbing if that is her inclination. All of these are financed by her income. Of course, she should also be aware that she alone is responsible for her old age, and should have made plans accordingly. To give up her economic independence and all the perks sounds horrifying to me, and I am sure they too, feel it.
 
What I am trying to say is - do these women really have a choice when they gave up their careers to be care-givers at home? They may well be the only ones who can be expected to do so - married siblings with their children and various mortgages and loans can hardly be expected to do the same. Such siblings may contribute financially towards the support of their parents (if at all), but they cannot afford to give up their jobs to become full-time care-givers. So the burden falls to the child who is single, who has probably reached an age where she will not marry.  And it is likely to be the female child who ends up with that position, since the older generation to a large extent still believes that a man should always be with a job, but not a woman (makes me wonder what they expect the woman to live on).
 
And the woman in question? She knows that she is probably the only one who can do it, and since she has never set up her own family, she will still be tied quite closely to her parents as compared to her married siblings. The needs of her beloved parents, versus her own dreams and aspirations - what gives? Speaking as a woman brought up in a relatively traditional Chinese family, I have to say that the family will come first. The conflict between her family's requirements and her own dreams and aspirations is one that she probably struggles with daily - and the fact that there is such a conflict will probably result in guilt. The resentment and the anger she feels for having to give up her dreams, the insecurity that comes with not being financially independent, the guilt she has for having such feelings and the genuine love and concern she has for her parents that caused her to do it in the first place - they make a potent brew.
 
At the end of the day - if the woman freely chooses such a life, then good. On the other hand, if the woman made the choice because there are no other acceptable options, then is it the right thing to do - for her and her family? Why should a woman, who may have remained single precisely because she enjoys the freedom from having to support and care for a family, be trapped in a situation she has taken such pains to avoid simply because it is the "correct" thing to do?
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Blading Along ECP - Musings

  • Aug. 3rd, 2005 at 7:49 PM
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Last Sunday I went blading along the ECP by myself and it was a relaxing, peaceful experience. To just glide smoothly along the paths, with the waves breaking onto the shores, laughter of children, chatter of youths, conversation among family members - it sooths a troubled mind. Have you ever felt that sometimes there are just too many people, too many not-friends but more than acquaintances pressing around, squeezing the very breath out of your lungs, wringing the last bit of energy from your soul? Have you ever felt a need for solace the way a starving child needs food? I felt like that on Sunday - and it was time, I thought, for some time-out.

So I bladed along the paths of ECP, observing but detached. There was a couple that I over-took, the guy obviously trying to teach the gal how to blade, I saw youngsters swift and deadly on blades, winging their way through the slower bladers, cyclists and joggers with ease, lost in their own world of iPod music. I saw a two Japanese gals on their first attempt on a tandem bicycle, losing control and careering wildly into the path of bicycles going the other direction and a tumble was avoided only because the other cyclists were quick enough to stop. I heard the music from the pubs lining the beach, with the smoke from the BBQ pits scenting the air. It was fun. A very different definition of fun I know - but being alone I realise, is sometimes when the most fun occurs. I had fun in Bangkok, by myself. I had fun in India, by myself. I even had fun, sitting in the ACM Museum library, doing research - the reading table looks out, through colonial style window, to the Singapore river. Fun can be defined in many ways - not just excitement or thrills.

Have you ever felt a sense of loss as you grow older and realise that you and your parents now inhabit different worlds? That your world, with its values and views, does not make any sense to your parents? And realise that in order to maintain some semblance of peace in the family, you have to keep your innermost thoughts and deepest hopes to yourself? And as a result the gulf grows wider? I look at the young children at Marina Cove, happily pointing out whatever caught their attention, and their parents smiling indulgently, and I wonder, how and when did these disappear? We grow up, they grow old - and somehow, we grow apart. And by the time, if ever, this breach is bridged, there might be not much time left for us together. And if you get married and have kids, the cycle begins anew. However, how can we truly regret this growing gulf unless we regret what we have become? How can a child ever be considered a grown-up until she has left her parents' orbit and find her own place in the world? Questions to ponder...

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